Today: Just the toilet…
January 12, 2008 at 4:27 pm | In Mommy Moments, Wonderings and Ponderings | 2 CommentsI’ve started having much smaller goals than I used to. It was a long and frustrating process to get here, but I’ve finally had to accept I am just not one of those people who can get everything done and come out looking like me and my house belong in a Pottery Barn catalogue. I desperately want to be that person, but when I try, inevitably Drew will not nap well, and I end up getting a hundred things started and none finished by the time Tim comes home from work and then the house looks like a Toys R Us exploded instead of the peaceful place where I’d like to live. So, I’ve begun making my to do lists smaller. I tell myself things like, “Today, if I can clean the upstairs bathroom, it will be a good day…” And then I focus all energies that don’t go to the baby on getting that bathroom clean. So far, it’s working pretty well, and on the days when I am successful, and I don’t listen to the voices telling me I should be doing so much more, I can lay my head on my pillow at night and sigh with contentment – for today, the toilet is clean. I am hoping that eventually I will be able to add more to my repertoire, like ‘today, I’m going to clean the bathroom AND empty the dishwasher’. But we’ll see how things go with this strategy for now. It really makes me wonder though if those all put together moms I see around me are really all put together and if so, how do they do it?!
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Sweet Cammie,
You are not alone. I am proud of you for making small goals! That is a difficult adjustment, I don’t know if I ever really let myself be OK with lowering my expectations. NO ONE can be the mom, maid, cook, and creator of fun and harmony all in the same day at the same time. We all need help! But, as Drew gets a little older and needing less than constant attention, you will be back to your Pottery Barn self! Infants are just infants…when he’s one and mobile you can have him “help” with stuff and things will go much better. I am sorry about the sleeplessness…Mara is not so great of a sleeper herself (still.) Teething really bothered her and made her wake up much more (like once an hour at the worst times.) Find what works for your family and get as much sleep as you can. Hopefully, Daddy can keep adjusting Drew back into happiness.
Comment by Lynnette — January 12, 2008 #
Hey,
I used to consider it a successful day if I got to shower, so don’t worry. Also, I finally broke down and hired a cleaner. I highly recommend it!! If I have to give up cable TV and running water to afford keeping the cleaner I will.
Can’t wait to see you next month.
Michelle
Comment by Michelle — January 13, 2008 #